Giving Birth Is a Cosmic Portal

If you have had the experience of giving birth then your body was a vessel between the spirit world and the physical world. You grew a body from cells to all the way to a 6-8 pound baby. Your babies spirit traveled from a different dimension to his/her’s new body to prepare for their arrival. While your little soul was settling into its new body, your body also went through major changes because having a human grow inside your body is something out of a Sci-fi movie. And then for it all to go back in place after such a dramatic experience? INSANITY. I’m not sure if I had a strong desire to experience motherhood, but I had enough curiosity that I made the decision to go through with the experience. 

Learning Motherhood Without a Manual

By no means did I have a traditional experience as we know motherhood to be; most days, I was alone with my little soul, preparing for her arrival in my belly. Things started to get real when I started to feel her movement and how she would respond to my touch; that was the most trippy experience I’d ever had. My birth experience was, thankfully, normal, but I do think I was in shock when I finally got to hold her. It was an odd experienc,e but in the best way possible. I remember feeling so nervous when I finally brought her home from the hospital. I was scared to pick my own baby up because I did not want to do anything to hurt her. Motherhood didn’t come with a manual, so I was literally on my own. 

Confidence, Protection, and the Way She Grounded Me

As the days went by, and the more I gained experience and through trial and error, the nervousness started to go away and the overprotective momma bear started to show. I started to become confident in being a mother because the reality set in that she came from me. I’m not sure how to put it in words, but if you had the honor of birthing a child, you would know what feeling I am trying to describe. Watching your baby grow through each milestone and see how she discovers the world around her is one of the best experiences that I have had in my life. I realized that my daughter saved in me in so many ways; she keeps me grounded in life. I had a conversation with my mom about me being a true free spirit at heart. Sometimes I can get so lost in myself and ideas that I start to lose touch with reality or just flat out isolate myself. My daughter brings me the balance that I need to be and feel happy. Sometimes I feel like I learn my lessons faster after having my daughter, she has matured in me ways that I was not aware that I needed maturity in. 

Why I’m One and Done

My journey through motherhood is still in the early stages, but I know enough and have experienced enough that I would not want to restart this journey again by having a second child. A lot of people say I have the view because I did not have the most traditional experience, but I know that even if I did, I would still have the same answer. One child is good enough for me. Being a mother requires so much from the very beginning and all the way up until the end , and I have realized that I only have enough for one. I’m also factoring in a partner that will also want my attention, too, and when I think about that, I already start to feel like I don’t have enough to pour into everyone, and because of my morals, I’m the first one that would not receive anything. All this may sound dramatic; however, I am extremely self-aware of the limitations that I have that will make being a second-time parent harder. I also feel like I am okay with the one experience my girl is giving me; I have no desire to experience it again. As I get older, I realize that I am a one-experience type of girl. 

One Child Feels Like Freedom (And a Built-In Best Friend)

I’ve seen a few videos of women on TikTok expressing this same sentiment that I am feeling. Some describe having one child as similar to having no children, and I completely agree with that statement. When my daughter is away at school or hanging out with other family members, it feels like I’m in my early 20s again with no real responsibility. Although I only have the feeling for a few hours or 1-2 days max, it is a beautiful experience to feel again. Having one child is like having a built-in best friend; my daughter and I easily experience everything together. We have yet to start traveling, but when that time comes, I know it will be such a memorable experience. I know it’s possible to do all these things with more than 1 child, but for me, it’s so easy to make memories with just one. I always hear about how children feel when discussing being an only child, but I feel lik,e for my scenario, that is what my daughter will want in the end. She is the center of attention and loves every second of it, and I don’t mind it at all. 

The Karmic Tie Between Mother and Child

On the cosmic side of it, I read in a Dolores Cannon book that children create Karma for us. Meaning, if we have children, we will always have a tie to Earth. We can’t disconnect from our kids fully if we have transitioned and they are still living their lives out on Earth. I remember a story my mom told me that I think about more now that I am a mother. I had a family member experience a sickness that resulted in a hospital visit. The person had an out-of-body experience, left her body, and was probably knocking on death’s door. The last thing the person could remember, before waking up, was that her children could not be left alone. No one would be able to take care of them like her. And then she woke up. I always admired hearing that story growing up, but now that I am in my 30s and a mother, I fully understand it. I could not imagine leaving my daughter right now. We are each other’s whole world, and I want to make sure I am here to guide her, prepare her, and show her the way so she will have a fulfilling, fun life experience. 

A Message to One-and-Done Moms

So I write all of this to say, if you are a one-and-done mom(family), you have found your tribe. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel guilty for being aware of any limitations on having another child. You know what you are capable of and what you can accomplish; don’t let anyone convince you to have another child because of the way our society is set up. Children are a huge responsibility; we are quite literally raising and teaching a little soul to navigate this interesting world. These little souls are coming in smart, strong-willed, independent, and curious. They require a lot of love and a lot of patience. They are human first and sometimes are experiencing all these emotions that they haven’t fully learned to process, but that is where we step in. No matter what you do, always prioritize yourself before you start pouring into other people.

Let’s chat in the comments! Are you one and done?